Category: Inner Child

Part of our psyche – stores impressions. holds our true identity, can heal, can be healthy

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Does it seem as though God is too busy?

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A Time for Everything

There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build, … Eccl. 3

Do you get angry or frustrated thinking that God has not answered your prayer?

In Him we were chosen, having been predestined according to the plan of Him who works out everything to conform to his will. Ephesians 1:11

When we have never known God, a tragedy arises or trauma. beyond what we can understand, it is natural to think in that desparate moment that God is too busy or does not care for us. But that is especially the time to cry out to God. Tell Him your hurt, anger, fear, and frustration. These are some of the greatest moments in which Creator and created meet on an intimate spirtual and emotional level.

Who moves away God or us?

After the resurrection, Jesus appeared to His disciples. They were overjoyed to see Him. Jesus then breathed on them and said, ‘Receive the Holy Spirit’ John 20:22

God Breathed and the world took form. God breathed into man and woman and they lived. When Jesus was leaving us, He breathed and we recieved His Holy Spirit that live in our spirits at this very moment. God is always near,we are His beloved creation. It is we humans who take in this breath and yet turn from God. All we need to do turn back and acknoledge the source of breath and life!

Were is evidence of A Creator-God?

Ask the animals, and they will teach you, or the birds in the sky, and they will tell you; or speak to the earth, and it will teach you, or let the fish in the sea inform you. Which of all these does not know that the hand of God has done this? In His hand is the life of every creature and the breath of all mankind.” Job 12:7-10

Nature itself speaks of God. Feeling lonely, need hope, or to learn how to trust again? Put down your phone,go outside and sit with nature. Find a tree, observe a nest of birds, go to the top of hill or mountain and look out at the expanse of nature around you. Lie on a blanket and look at the night sky. You will experience God.

Is it rational or logical to try to connect with God?

The wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceful, gentle, open to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere. James 3:17

God’s is rational and logical and gifts us with both. But He is far bigger than the logic we possess. He is larger than life; creative, resourceful, trustworthy and He does not mind if we test Him. He wants us to put something in His hands and then wait patiently for a result or outcome. We err when we take it back too quickly. God also gifts us with grace that builds our faith, Faith has a spiritual and emotional component. The gift of faith can not be seen but can be acknowledged and will grow as our relationship with God grows.

Who is the source of faith?

Ephesians 2:8
For by grace you have been saved through faith, and not of yourselves; it is the gift of God, not of works, lest anyone should boast.

Our relationship with God starts with God. He inspires us to turn toward Him. He shows us things through people and nature that open our minds to consider believing. Then gives us more grace to begin understanding and believing. Grace is a gift. Faith is a gift. Grace is a gift. We need only to surrender our stubborn will and accept the gift.

Scripture cited from Biblegateway.com NIV version.

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Stop Resisting; Turn toward Possibilities 

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We do not like to retreat. If we are pushed, we push back. If we hit a wall, we bang our head for a while thinking that our stubbornness and unwillingness to retreat will remove the obstacle and open the desired door.

As with many things in life, things are not always as they seem. When we feel trapped, what seems like asserting ourselves can actually be detrimental to our growth, contentment, and well-being. This push is to avoid being taken advantage of or looking weak.

Reversing these harmful responses and actions is not easy. But may I suggest as a new practice; to begin removing yourself from the harmful situation. Stop arguing with unreasonable people. Stop placing yourself in situations where you know you are not respected.

Other times, stressors keep our focus and the what ifs are the number one offender. What if I fail? What if he leaves me? What if I am not loved and end up alone? What if I don’t have enough money? Perhaps try to write down your what ifs of the day. Then, make a decision to lay these scary thoughts aside. Just for the day. Knowing that what ifs happen in the future if they happen at all.

In today you have another chance at life and emotional freedom. Changing your focus is a powerful tool that allows you to stay present in this day. The repeated practice of this opens to new insights, hope, and possibilities.

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Free Falling into the New

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You have been doing quite a bit of inner exploration then fatigue set in. Did you do something nice for yourself or have you been binge watching TV or over working? No matter, it is time to go deeper and broader.

On a shelf in a room down the hall is a book that has not been used in a while. Inside is the story of you. The first few chapters are stories of sadness, fear, and uncertainty. Then the chapter that expressed the anger and rage at all that happened with no one to protect you.

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Redemption: Restoring back to the Original

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Redemption is sought by many, but most of us would not recognize it if it looked us in the face. We can agree that there is a desire to be restored or saved after a significant loss; something was taken or had enslaved us. But where can we satisfy this desire?

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Is my Inner Voice leading me to Spiritual Freedom?

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Spiritual freedom does not happen by accident. It comes from following the spiritual voice found inside. However, this is no easy task for those born into evil or thrust into abuse. We hear a combination of our own condemning inner voice and the abuser’s threats. Upon spiritual examination we find the shadow of death in the mix. The clamoring voice that actively manipulates our inner messages.

Attempting to break free is trial and error. Prayer is used more as a test rather than true conviction, in the beginning. Pray, wait, ask for guidance and protection and then repeat. Through this, prayer by prayer, practice we learn to separate harmful critical thoughts and exaggerated emotions from God led inspiration and guidance.

” The spiritual voice inside us (that leads to freedom and life) speaks of care and love. It will never tell us to hurt others or ourselves. It is our Higher Power’s voice. It’s what Step Eleven (Big Book) calls “conscious contact.”

Sometimes the voice tells us to do things we’re afraid of. For example, if we’re lonely and the voice tells us to call someone on our phone list, we may make excuses to not do it. Again, the voice may say, “Just make the call, it will be okay.” if we follow this guiding voice, we’ll find happiness.” and Spiritual Freedom!

excerpt from “Keep It Simple: Daily Meditations for Twelve Step Beginnings and Renewal (Hazelden Meditations) Paperback – October 1, 1989

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Be an Egg Breaker

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When I became aware that there was a hold on my thinking, I was given the freedom to change. Without awareness, I was lost in an endless cycle of disillusionment, hurt, and discouragement. Awareness brought clarity and my innate desire to do better.
I decided that like a chick I would break out of my shell and accepted there would be a a struggle. Whether a human, a chick, a flower, or a butterfly all struggle. Without the struggle, there would be no birth, survival or motivation to seek their full potential.


There is a need to stretch and grow, built into all living things. Whether it is physical strengthening, mental cleansing, learning something new, or achieving spiritual freedom and growth. Applying knowledge, based on a new truth or a behavioral change, brings it’s own struggle.


Counter to this, when lost in apathy, we feel the tug and brace ourselves, attempting to block out the fearful unknown and resist discomfort. By accepting that there will be a struggle in the natural course of life, the effort then becomes tolerable.
When we accept the struggle, change unfolds in us and through us.

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CHANGING ONESELF WHILE CO-DEPENDENT

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Co-dependency: excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner or family member, one or both have unreasonable control over the other.

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There is no autonomy or self-governing; control is exerted over the other’s movements, money, sexual activity, or friends; through emotional, psychological manipulation, or physical abuse. Adult children of alcoholics easily fall into the same patterns as their parents: picking a partner or raising their children, in the same manner, they were, remaining trapped in the cycle.

Life itself will offer moments of clarity. A crossroad, a breaking point, or outside intervention. A realization that something could be different. That one may enter a recovery program, peer support at a church, or counseling center. To break free and recover, emotional detachment is vital, while new information is taken in. There is always an emotional separation from the other co-dependant, if there is physical or psychological abuse a physical separation is needed until both can seek help. These are forms of detachment. Detachment simply allows space to breath, rest, and reevaluate. For most it is frightening and progress may be delayed out of a fear that something is being lost.

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Excerpt: Fearless Reckonings of Lady Jayne

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A year later, while in a counseling session, attempting once again to make sense of my predicament, I become terrified and disoriented. Directly in my line of vision, a form like a hologram appeared leaving no room for my present life to penetrate.  I began seeing the atrocities done to my mother and my brothers. The smell of orange blossoms, bacon, country gravy and biscuits, the moist smell of dew in the mountain air filled my senses. Mashed potatoes mingled with blood on old graying wall paper came into view. I heard my own fear in its’ deafening silence as brown trousers came towards me. Physically, I was left feeling moist, cold and exposed; breathless with unbelievable pain in my throat and shoulders.

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Seeking Inner Peace

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Are you doubtful that true inner peace can be found? 

Abuse, incest, neglect, trafficking, rape all invades us. Our minds are flooded with fear, terror, isolation, pain, and threats of death. But more than this! We ingest messages that no one cares, no one can be trusted, God has let us down. Perhaps you believe you are ugly, useless, unteachable, destined for poverty, disgrace and loneliness because you are of no value or unlovable. Our very soul, our very essence hides or feels as if it has been ripped loose from us.   

                                                                  STOP HERE! All LIES! 

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