We do not like to retreat. If we are pushed, we push back. If we hit a wall, we bang our head for a while thinking that our stubbornness and unwillingness to retreat will remove the obstacle and open the desired door.
As with many things in life, things are not always as they seem. When we feel trapped, what seems like asserting ourselves can actually be detrimental to our growth, contentment, and well-being. This push is to avoid being taken advantage of or looking weak.
Reversing these harmful responses and actions is not easy. But may I suggest as a new practice; to begin removing yourself from the harmful situation. Stop arguing with unreasonable people. Stop placing yourself in situations where you know you are not respected.
Other times, stressors keep our focus and the what ifs are the number one offender. What if I fail? What if he leaves me? What if I am not loved and end up alone? What if I don’t have enough money? Perhaps try to write down your what ifs of the day. Then, make a decision to lay these scary thoughts aside. Just for the day. Knowing that what ifs happen in the future if they happen at all.
In today you have another chance at life and emotional freedom. Changing your focus is a powerful tool that allows you to stay present in this day. The repeated practice of this opens to new insights, hope, and possibilities.