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A Mind Prone to Wander

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catching obsessive wandering thoughts

Research shows that the average person has 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts in a day. Out of 60,000 thoughts, 90% are repetitive. A third finding is that 47% of the time, our minds wander and typically is led to negative, ruminating thoughts. 

Why is this information so vital to survivors?

It makes a huge difference in the lives of those who have been abused or neglected. While in counseling or a recovery program, we retell the troubling occurrences. The goal is to gain insight and find a resolution.  We bring these dirty secrets out in the open, giving us a voice and validation, perhaps for the first time. This telling takes some of the power out of the trauma, making it more manageable. We, hopefully, come to realize we could not have prevented the abuse. Another goal is to realize that although we are symptomatic, it is no longer happening.

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Posted in Affects of Sexual Abuse: LIES, Inner Child, Return to your true created essence, Thoughtful Living

What’s the Attraction?

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Most who have been abused at home or trafficked attempt to find a savior at school or on the streets. The new relationship holds the illusion of safety, belonging, and being understood. Usually we are not aware that the new relationship serves as a bandage over strong emotions of loneliness and low self-worth. The new relationship is a distraction from ourselves, aids in blocking out reality and hinders further healing.

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Let the Journey to Spiritual Freedom Begin

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As survivors there is the task of rejoining the fragments of our psyche, healing our nervous system and emotions. The difficulty lies in our inability to trust our thinking, trusting God, and trusting those who are sincerely trying to help.

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Look to God, the Light of the World

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Psalm 13:3-Look on me and answer, Lord my God. Give light to my eyes, or I will sleep in death, (The Message Translation – Take a good look at me, God, my God; I want to look life in the eye)

The only way to know if someone is or is not looking at you, is if you are looking at them. Once you are looking to God and you know He is looking back on you, you can look take on life, looking it straight in the eye, and not looking away with intimidation.

Michelle Meredith contributed..

Posted in Affects of Sexual Abuse: LIES, Inner Child, Return to your true created essence, Spiritual Warfare, Thoughtful Living

Stop Resisting Turn toward Possibilities 

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We do not like to retreat. If we are pushed, we push back. If we hit a wall, we bang our head for a while thinking that our stubbornness and unwillingness to retreat will remove the obstacle and open the desired door.

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Lost but now I can be found

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Abused or neglected in our developmental years leaves us confused. Our God given compass does not function appropriately. We are loyal to the abuser and mistrust others that may come into our lives to show us a better way. We may believe everyone lives as we have and that this is as good as it gets. Curiosity for freedom does not exist or is held within. Sometimes we know something is wrong but believe we deserve the way we have been treated because we are somehow defective.

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IS TRUTH AMBIGUOUS?

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Ambiguous: open to more than one interpretation or meaning.; 
Unclear or inexact because a choice between the alternatives has not been made. 

If you have been following along, you know that I, unknowingly, began life under the power of the shadow. Spiritual bondage formed by deception and secrets that I had witnessed and internalized. I did not know how much darkness surrounded me, as I saw no one in the light. I was taught to be dishonest by my parents and the whisperings of the shadow. I took what I learned, continued to listen to the destructive voice in my head and used to hurt myself and others. 

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Finding the Magic Key of Recovery

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Step out of your circumstances for a while. Observe others who seem to know how to live. Perhaps observe people who are not living in anger or endless drama. There are people around us in recovery that have unlocked the door and found a way out.

People-watching can be a beginning, but offers little assistance to a struggling soul until the process of surrender occurs from within.  The AA principles lay out the process from self-reliance and unmanageability to surrender and freedom.  Hindering the process are swirling obsessive thoughts and knee jerk reactions. These traits may have not been of own making, but rather have been modeled to us by caretakers, parents, or an abuser. Although proven time and again to be harmful and faulty, as long as we believe them to be truthful, valid and appropriate we will stubbornly stay unchanged.

Stepping out of victimization or personal addictive behaviors requires a surrender so we can watch and listen for new information. Lack of faith and trust is our dilemma. We could not trust our ourselves while in active addiction. Taking the substances out of our system we can now listen and choose a different path. We have a Creator who is available and is continually trying to reach us. This Creator would like to reach us and change our thinking and behaviors. There is restoring power beyond our imagining. A new outlook awaits.

The key to this door, that opens to a path into the beautiful new unknown, is surrender. That key is found when we can sit quietly and dare to think outside of what we believe is our reality. The key begins to turn. There may be clutter in front of the door, or the door may slam shut again and again. Then one day it stays open. We awake to new information, new possibilities. Needed resources and strength present themselves.

 

Posted in Inner Child, Return to your true created essence, Thoughtful Living

Be an Egg Breaker

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When I became aware that there was a hold on my thinking, I was given the freedom to change. Without awareness, I was lost in an endless cycle of disillusionment, hurt, and discouragement. Awareness brought clarity and my innate desire to do better.
I decided that like a chick I would break out of my shell and accepted there would be a a struggle. Whether a human, a chick, a flower, or a butterfly all struggle. Without the struggle, there would be no birth, survival or motivation to seek their full potential.


There is a need to stretch and grow, built into all living things. Whether it is physical strengthening, mental cleansing, learning something new, or achieving spiritual freedom and growth. Applying knowledge, based on a new truth or a behavioral change, brings it’s own struggle.


Counter to this, when lost in apathy, we feel the tug and brace ourselves, attempting to block out the fearful unknown and resist discomfort. By accepting that there will be a struggle in the natural course of life, the effort then becomes tolerable.
When we accept the struggle, change unfolds in us and through us.